How to Deal With a Teenager
If a teenager talks back to you or refuses to do something you have asked, take a few seconds to remind yourself to stay calm, and think about what you are about to say. Do not yell at the child, as this will cause more tension. Rather walk away and chat to her later when she is on her own and you have both calmed down. Back chatting is normally a teenager trying to assert their independence and test the limits, so help them make good choices within the boundaries you have set.
Never be sarcastic or rude. Be very aware of how you treat others, as your pupils also follow your behavior. Sometimes you will even need to apologize for your own behavior, as we are not all perfect, and this can also make a difference to the attitude of the teenager.
If the teenager seems to be out of control or defying you in ways that endanger her safety or that of others, seek outside or professional assistance immediately.
Ultimately, it starts at home. Parents need to educate themselves on how to deal with a teenager and should be actively in helping their children break those bad habits. This will help her to relate to others and be successful in life.
Here are some tips on how to deal with a teenager that you can try in your dance studio:
- As a teacher, you need to make sure that respect is a part of your studio culture. If you do have a problem with a pupil you need to address the issue before it gets out of hand.
- If you have an issue with one of your pupils, set up a parent teacher conference, and preferably have another staff member with you at the meeting. Have somebody take notes and try and determine together what solution can be reached and whether or not the student is willing to participate on your terms or leave the studio.
- You need to hold your pupils accountable for their behavior, and you need to let your students know what sort of behavior is not tolerated in your studio, for example bullying, cheek, etc. If you address the issues right away, you can prevent the issue from having a negative impact on the rest of your studio.
- A good idea is to state what sort of consequences will be dealt out for certain behavior in writing when a student joins your dance studio. Also state what type of behavior would result in dismissal from your classes and be prepared to follow through and set an example.
- Try not to let your fear of losing your students stop you from doing what is best for your business. It is best to work through any problems with your students, so that they know where they stand, and you in turn can create a more peaceful environment.
- If a student decides to leave or is dismissed by you, be prepared, as they often post negative remarks or comments on social media. You should have a professional statement from the studio regarding any of the actions that you have taken.
Hope this post has helped someone out on how to deal with a teenager. Please add your thoughts and comments below.